Since the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory was developed in 1967, Americans have consistently reported moving as one of their top stressors–and it is sometimes ranked as more stressful than marriage, breakups, and divorce. Of course, that probably depends on why, where, and when you’re moving; your financial situation; your physical health; etc. Still, even when you’re moving for all the best reasons, it’s stressful.
As a frequent mover (I’m doing it again this summer) and a friend to frequent movers, I’ve picked up some strategies along the way. I’m sharing a few of them here because some friends who haven’t moved in awhile are doing so this summer, and I’d like to share with them the things that have made my moves much easier. I’m presenting them in the order I recommend doing them.
Join social media groups in your new hometown. If there is a Facebook group where locals share recommendations for home repair services, house cleaning services, plumbers, carpenters, etc., join now. This will let you start building some knowledge of who to call if you need help on your first day.
Hire a housecleaner. Before you arrive in your new place, have it professionally deep cleaned. Yes, the previous owner should have done it. But they were likely in a hurry and, since they weren’t going to live with the consequences of a bad job, they probably did not do it to your standard, and you want to start your time in your new place with feelings of gratitude, not fury or doubt about whether the previous occupants took good care of the place. Plus, you want to focus on unpacking, not cleaning, and you absolutely don’t want to unpack your stuff into greasy cabinets or dusty drawers. If you already have a housekeeping service you like, ask if they will clean your new place, even if it is out of their service area–for an extra fee, of course. If you don’t have a current housecleaner, hire one now to clean a small part of your current house–a deep clean of the bathroom or kitchen is a good place to start. This lets you test out a service before committing to a pricey whole-house cleaning. (And this is why this advice comes first in my list–because you might need to test out a few cleaning services before you find a great one.) If you are moving at a distance, start asking friends or future colleagues for recommendations. Get specific about what you want: every nook and cranny, every drawer and shelf, the inmost depths of every closet and cabinet. A solo cleaner may need 2-3 days to accomplish this, depending on the size of your house.
Collect liquor store boxes. Provided that a liquor store is a safe and legal place for you to be, ask if yours gives away free boxes. Lots do, and they may even store them in a specific spot with a dolly you can borrow to haul them to your car. Pop in regularly, ideally right after opening, to pick up lots and lots.
Liquor boxes are small enough that they can be carried by even those of us with smaller wingspans, and they are also small enough that you can’t easily overfill them, making them too heavy to lift. Even when filled with books or Fiestaware, they’re manageable. Avoid beer boxes, which typically have a whole in the bottom as the four flaps don’t perfectly overlap. Wine and liquor boxes work well, and they may even have dividers in them that are perfect for packing glasses. Always choose sturdy ones, and, if you have an option, pick light-colored boxes without too much advertising on them so that you have plenty of places to label them.
If you will hire professional movers, reserve their services now and learn their packing policies. Some may request that you list every item in a box, and that’s easier to do from the start.
Get everything in the room where it belongs. First step of packing: know what you have. Your goal is to avoid “miscellaneous” boxes that will have you walking from room to room at your new place as you unpack them. And it stinks to have packed up your winter sweaters and carefully labeled them, only to find one more at the bottom of the laundry hamper.
To achieve this goal, take an empty box or tote bag or laundry basket and label it (even if just mentally) with the name of one room. Then walk into every other room of the house and pick up anything in them that belongs in the first room. For example, you can take a laundry basket that is dedicated to the kitchen and walk every other room of the house looking for dishes, dish towels, or food (or whatever else might have left the kitchen but really belongs there).
Declutter. How rich we are, that we have to have a plan to have less! Instead of seeing decluttering as a painful or shameful task, view it as an exercise in gratitude to those who make products and those who have given them to you and an act of connection to those who will care for them now that you have benefitted from them. Here are some tips to make it easier to tap into appreciation for your material possessions.
Put everything you own away. As you move through the decluttering process, you’ll be winnowing your stuff down to what is beautiful, meaningful, or useful (and hopefully at least two of these three!). Make sure it is clean, then put it where it belongs in your current home. Use the effort of putting it away as another opportunity to review if you really want to carry it with you to your next home. As you hold it in your hand, ask yourself, If I didn’t own this, would I wish that I had it? If not, it may be a good candidate for gifting, donating, or selling.
Pack items of a kind, starting with what you don’t need now, in boxes that will end up in the same room in your new home. Your goal is to end up with no boxes labeled miscellaneous. So, pack items that are alike and will end up in the same room in your new home, even if they don’t come out of the same rooms in your current home. For example, perhaps your children now share a bedroom but will have separate bedrooms in your new home. Pack now according to which bedroom the box will go into, not which one it came out of. The narrower the range of items inside the box, the better. For example, pack your sweaters in one box, your dressier dresses in another. Label narrowly so that you can prioritize your unpacking to find what you need quickly. You don’t want to waste time unpacking a food dehydrator when what you need is the coffee pot just because you labeled them both only as “kitchen.”
Start your packing with the things you are least likely to need now: out-of-season clothing, athletic gear, holiday decorations, home repair tools, school supplies, or items that belong to people who aren’t currently living with you (like a college student or parent who lives with you part-time).
Inventory what you own. I mean this literally–and especially if you are doing a move that will require your possessions to be out of your sight, like on the road with a moving company, in a storage unit, or in a moving truck that you yourself are driving a long distance (since you’ll have to stop to eat, use the restroom, and maybe sleep). Thieves target moving vans in hotel parking lots, auto collisions happen, and storage units flood. Check your homeowner’s insurance to make sure it covers damage, destruction, or theft of property mid-move, and help yourself now by keeping a long list of items you are packing.
Label your boxes. Label the box with the name of the room and the items inside. For example, don’t just write “books,” because that will require you (or, even worse, someone helping you move) to decide where books go. Is it a library? Home office? Den? Children’s bedroom? Write the name of the room where you want the item to go AND include a word that will help you figure out what’s inside without opening it. “Office: Textbooks” or “Sarah’s bedroom: Books” will help those carrying the box know where to place it and also how to handle it–like whether it will be heavy or if they should avoid putting other boxes on top of it. Plus, this labeling makes it easier to find what you need fast upon arrival.
I also recommend tagging boxes with a colorful sticker that corresponds to a room in your new home. (The neon circles used to tag items for yard sales work well, provided you can get them in lots of colors.) This can help you see from a distance which boxes will go to which rooms, which is especially useful if you are loading a dolly with boxes that go to the same place.
Pro-tip: your keywords on every side of each box, plus on the top. When a box is loaded into a moving truck, you’ll typically only be able to see one side of it. If you write the new home for the box on only one side, 75% of the time, you won’t be able to see it without picking it up and searching for it (and if you write it on the top, you’ll never be able to see it unless you stand over it, which you can’t do if it’s underneath other boxes). Use a black Sharpie on light colored boxes and, if you’re using liquor boxes with dark sides, use a white, silver, or gold Sharpie (store cap-side down for best results).
Sort your packed items according to the room where they will go in your new home. When you bag your groceries at the grocery store, you bag them according to where they will go in your house: all bathroom items together, all items for the pantry or the refrigerator. That way, when you unload groceries, you can look inside the bag, see a single item and instantly know where to take and unload the whole bag, and you don’t have to take every bag to the basement freezer–only the ones that are filled with only items for that destination.
Apply the same concept here: Once you pack your boxes and label them, store them according to what room they will go into. For example, if you currently have books throughout your home but will soon be consolidating them into a single library, place all the boxes of books together now–in an empty closet, corner of the garage, etc. This way, when they are placed in the moving truck, they will be placed near each other and then can be unpacked all at once. On move-in day, you can unload the truck one room at a time. If friends or family are helping unpack, someone can work in a single room, and within a few hours, you can have the whole library or kitchen set up. And if you are moving yourself in your car over a few days, you can load all the items for one room, transport them at once, and unload them at once, checking off each room as you complete it.
Hire loaders and unloaders, even if you drive the moving truck yourself. If you are a friend of mine, your friends are likely too old to help you lift every single thing you own in exchange for pizza. If you are moving a great distance, you might rely on a moving service, but even if you are driving all your stuff yourself, having someone else schlepp boxes to and from the moving truck is a huge help. You’ll have to do the unboxing and putting away yourself–don’t start that process with back pain from hauling it, too. Professional movers know how to avoid injury and have better equipment than you can rent to get the job done.
That said, expect even professional movers to do a bad job. (Sorry, but I’ve never seen a case where they didn’t break something.) If you own an item that is especially heavy and tricky–a piano, for example–hire someone with specialized knowledge. If anything is delicate and precious to you, carry it with you or ask a friend to drive it separately: musical instruments; artwork; electronics; jewelry; sensitive files; your fireproof envelope with your birth certificate, social security card, passport, etc. If you are transporting firearms over a long distance, hire a company that specializes in that kind of service as you don’t want to leave them in a moving truck or even your own car.
Pack an overnight bag and carry it with you. Don’t wait until 11 pm, after you have spent the day loading and unloading a moving truck, to figure out that you don’t have what you need to go to sleep. Pack an overnight bag with your toothbrush, toothpaste, and floss; face wash and soap; washcloth and towel; shampoo and conditioner; meds; pajamas; eye mask (since you don’t know what the light is going to be like in your new bedroom); a change of clothes; and your pillow (if you are a fussy person like me). If moving a distance with a family over the road, pack a single carry-on for the family for each night on the road; that way, you don’t have to unload one suitcase per person into the hotel each night but can instead just bring in one suitcase per night. In the Night #1 suitcase, pack a laundry bag for collecting dirty laundry.
If moving a long distance by car, rent an AirBnB or VRBO in a remote location or with a garage that locks. Do not park your moving truck in the parking lot of a motel. If you must stay in a city without the ability to secure your car or moving truck, rent a storage unit (yes, it’s worth it to pay a month’s rent for one night if it means you aren’t robbed) in the city, park it inside the unit, lock it (You may need to bring your own lock), and then get an Uber back to your hotel.
Hire an awesome cleaning service to clean after you leave. Be a Boy Scout and leave your current home nicer than you found it. Can you get away with not doing a deep clean? Sure, but don’t be like that, especially if the next occupants are likely to be people without the money to hire help with their own move.
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